Laura Widman

When my little sister was a teenager, I let her be mean and rude to me, because I thought it was a stage. Even though I wanted to see her and spend time with her so bad, I gave her space and let her ignore me. Now, she’s 21, and I don’t know what happened to her. She was such a loving, joyful little kid. Now, she’s a narcissist.

Abusers control their target with guilt. Laura gives me everything she can: presents, pregnancy, sickness, and almost a breakup?!? Amazing.

Abusers make the target feel ostracized and worthless if they don’t comply. “We all wish you were here but aren’t going to beg you to come if you don’t want to be here.

Abusers don’t self-reflect on how they treat their target.

Abusers call you cruel for wanting to get away from them. Laura said, “You not liking how you’re treated is not an excuse to be cruel back,” when I didn’t come home for Christmas.

Abusers are proud that they don’t care about the target. “Whatever, I don’t know what you want and I’m not going to try and figure it out.”

Abusers pretend to care about the target to play the victim. “It isn’t easy having you not here”

Abusers use gaslighting on the target to destroy their sense of reality. “you shaming us for not talking to you when I thought that’s what you wanted is hurtful.”

Abusers force you to pretend everything is good. “Merry Christmas Mary, I hope you have a good day.”

  1. Abusers make you feel guilty.
  2. Abusers like to make their target feel ostracized and worthless. “We all wish you were here but aren’t going to beg you to come if you don’t want to be here.
  3. Abusers call you cruel for wanting to get away from them. Laura said, “You not liking how you’re treated is not an excuse to be cruel back,” when I didn’t come home for Christmas.
  4. Abusers don’t care about your feelings. “Whatever, I don’t know what you want and I’m not going to try and figure it out.”
  5. Abusers lie and play the victim. “It isn’t easy having you not here and you shaming us for not talking to you when I thought that’s what you wanted is hurtful.”
  6. Abusers want you to pretend everything is fine. “Merry Christmas Mary, I hope you have a good day.”