Ahab Spirit Characteristics

This is a summary from Steve Sampson’s book, ” Discerning and Defeating the AHAB Spirit.”

  1. Making judgments about others based on too little information
  2. Comparing oneself to others to determine who is smarter, better looking, etc
  3. Making assumptions about other peoples hearts & motives
  4. Living with an exaggerated need to make everyone else happy
  5. Being so afraid of rejection that you cannot handle facing issues as they really are
  6. Drawing attention to oneself because of an addiction to drama
  7. Never taking responsibility; it’s always somebody else’s fault
  8. Not taking responsibility for their life, claiming that they were told to do or not do something
  9. Projecting a good Christian image in public, but in private is involved in sin
  10. Always expecting disaster to take place
  11. Doing something unacceptable & then doing something to try to make up for the wounds without dealing with the real issue
  12. Avoiding telling others what they need and want by passively putting up with more of their poor behavior
  13. Believe that if someone is angry with them, it must be their fault
  14. Believe that if others don’t tell them that they’re a good person, then they must not be
  15. Believe that it’s their duty to make everyone happy and comfortable
  16. Believe that everyone ought to be nice to them
  17. Believe that they should always be and act happy in spite of any hardship or trouble that comes their way
  18. Have a lifestyle of giving up their identity for the purpose of “peace at any price”
  19. Always feel like a failure, unaccepted, insecure
  20. Always have stories to tell about how others have taken advantage of them
  21. Masters at seeing faults in others and tend to blame others for whatever is wrong
  22. Their happiness and peace is based on their current circumstances and how loved, affirmed, and accepted they feel.
  23. Come across as selfless, but are also very selfish (It is just more hidden, so they look good to others)
  24. Draw all the attention to themselves, and if married, often stay in marriage because of their children
  25. Selfish in marriage, because they manage very early on to get the children to volunteer as their emotional support system
  26. Pull energy from the kids, holding them as emotional hostages because the children are forced for their own well being to emotional support them, who claims to be the victim
  27. Use people to stop their pain
  28. Give power away in order for other people to validate their identity, and to tell us who they are
  29. Has a poor self image, mood swings, and impulsivity
  30. Fears abandonment and become clingy, needy, and helpless
  31. Immediately attach to others, and then push the same people away to avoid rejection.
  32. Choose not to confront and will quickly brush away any thought of standing up for truth in a situation because of the fear of conflict
  33. Never take up their God-given freedom. They refuse to step up, become assertive, say what they need to and command respect. Then they blame others for taking their freedom away when in fact they themselves gave it away
  34. Difficult to talk to because they take everything as rejection.
  35. Fish for compliments, and every time they walk in a room, they want to be seen and noticed. If they perceive that they are unnoticed, they become offended.
  36. Sexually addicted because they interpret sex as love
  37. Depressed because they never deal with the feelings they stuff away
  38. Usually do not forgive themselves and even have issues with God
  39. Are blind to God’s ability to make them whole. They don’t believe the blood of Jesus was enough to handle their sins and heal their issues. Somehow they believe that you are a special case
  40. Over merciful, seeing the best in every person and overlooking too much. They forgive others to quickly (not making them aware of their offenses.)
  41. Blame themselves when others betray or insult them
  42. Resent verbal assaults, but refuse to take the offender to task and stop the behavior
  43. Will do anything to gain acceptance
  44. Usually nice people—too nice. They have low self-worth and try to gain ground by winning acceptance
  45. Spend so much energy trying to impress everyone, even those they do not know, or those who could careless about them